Comments on: Threesomes not part of the ‘normal college experience’ http://cblpi.org/senseandsexualityblog/2009/11/threesomes-not-part-of-the-normal-college-experience/ Sat, 27 Nov 2010 00:05:47 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: artschoolnerd http://cblpi.org/senseandsexualityblog/2009/11/threesomes-not-part-of-the-normal-college-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-117 artschoolnerd Tue, 17 Nov 2009 01:47:45 +0000 http://cblpi.org/senseandsexualityblog/?p=179#comment-117 Oh threesomes, the most overhyped sex act. I do dislike how threesomes, and always MFF threesomes, are touted in mainstream society. And the people who want threesomes the most are rarely the ones with the maturity and communication skills to have them. I recall a couple other blogs complaining about this threesome as well, being both unrealistic and that the threesome was really just the lesbian kiss. One reason threesomes destroy relationships is people try them as a last-ditch effort to save their sex lives/ relationships. Of course a relationship lacking communication can not survive something like that. That said, I don't think its fair to say threesomes only happen among those with "unnatural" sexual appetites. The commonness of the fantasy shows its not unnatural. I know plenty of people who have said fantasies, and know some who acted on it. To say it is unnatural is to suggest it is both unhealthy and wrong. It's only unhealthy if you're not prepared (emotionally and physically) It's only wrong if your own morality and belief system says so. I prefer not to pass judgement on responsible adults (which most college students are legally) experimenting or who just happen to like threesomes. This is not an act anyone should do unless they are 100 percent sure, and because they themselves are into it. I've stuck to monogamy interested guys, so I've never had to use my hypothetical argument of "Of course we can have a threesome, which of our guy friends did you have in mind?" Oh threesomes, the most overhyped sex act. I do dislike how threesomes, and always MFF threesomes, are touted in mainstream society. And the people who want threesomes the most are rarely the ones with the maturity and communication skills to have them. I recall a couple other blogs complaining about this threesome as well, being both unrealistic and that the threesome was really just the lesbian kiss. One reason threesomes destroy relationships is people try them as a last-ditch effort to save their sex lives/ relationships. Of course a relationship lacking communication can not survive something like that.
That said, I don’t think its fair to say threesomes only happen among those with “unnatural” sexual appetites. The commonness of the fantasy shows its not unnatural. I know plenty of people who have said fantasies, and know some who acted on it. To say it is unnatural is to suggest it is both unhealthy and wrong. It’s only unhealthy if you’re not prepared (emotionally and physically) It’s only wrong if your own morality and belief system says so. I prefer not to pass judgement on responsible adults (which most college students are legally) experimenting or who just happen to like threesomes. This is not an act anyone should do unless they are 100 percent sure, and because they themselves are into it.

I’ve stuck to monogamy interested guys, so I’ve never had to use my hypothetical argument of “Of course we can have a threesome, which of our guy friends did you have in mind?”

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