I came of age in the anything-goes, if-it-feels-good-do-it, there’s-nothing-wrong-with-sexual-behavior-like-bunnies-and-dogs era.   Many young people today have moms and dads who grew up then, too.   Maybe they never told their children, regardless of their own behavior which they may now regret, that intimate sex in the context of marriage is the best, most enjoyable sexual relationship to have and should be the goal.   

But some may have been lucky enough to have a mother who told them that the old fashioned way of sex within marriage really is best and worth waiting for.   One healthy man and one healthy woman in a monogamous marriage relationship, without worries about dreadful incurable diseases, emotional attachments to  others who ’ve already moved on to the next body, or the devastating regrets that come after the alcohol and hangover have worn off.   

Most of us looking to the years ahead aspire to have a long and happy marriage.  And if you talk with most couples who have had long , happy marriages of 30, 40, and 50 years,  you  often find that they have been monogamous and they didn’t  have sex  until they were married.   

Sometimes it’s easy to ignore advice from older people.  But if your mother gives you such advice, it might be wise to listen to her.   She just might be speaking from (painful) experience.

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