Ever get the feeling that you’re all alone in thinking that hooking up isn’t all it’s cracked up to be? Well, you’re in luck because you’ve just stumbled upon a blog full of ladies who feel exactly like you do and aren’t afraid to say so.
The number of young women acknowledging hook-up regret and learning about the biological responses that produce those feelings is growing, and you can be a part of the movement to end political correctness in sex education by taking a few basic steps.
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There is another side to the story of hooking-up, and you can help spread the truth and knowledge about Oxytocin, condom myths, and the dangers of STDs. Our national poll is a great place to start and a fabulous source of information. Get empowered and go start spreading the word about Sense and Sexuality.
I myself have never felt comfortable with hooking up, but that’s just me. But I know many women (both single, married, mothers, never want to be a mother women) who enjoy hooking up. I don’t see the problem in being able to accept the fact that some women think and feel differently about sex and about who they have it with.
and I would also like to point out that if we would tell girls that this is how sex is, that some women can have hook ups and be fine and others can’t, that it’s a decision they should think about. If we gave women this choice, I bet there would be less confusion and more girls/women making the choice that is right for them. And if, because we’re human, they hook up and think it’s a mistake, instead of making them feel guilty or telling them women aren’t capable of hooking up which of course is common knowledge (feel the sarcasm people), just tell them they learned something about themselves. Isn’t this what we do when they make other mistakes?
And don’t think that telling them this will give them the go ahead to have sex, because some of my friends and I had parents that told us we should be responsible and just be true to ourselves and none of us have chosen to ‘hook up’.
Hmm. I’ve had casual hook-ups and not felt any regret. And I’ve had sex in long-term, loving relationships, and when they ended, I felt like crap. It’s the emotional investment you make (or not) in the relationship that affects how you feel about it, not how close your genitals get to each other’s.
Also, perhaps young women wouldn’t feel such a sense of regret and guilt if certain figures in the media didn’t go around telling them that sex was a bad thing. Just a thought!
I was under the impression that oxycotin effected men and women equally in orgasm- is there an imbalance at some point in the process I was unaware of?
[Ed Note: check out vasopressin, oxycotin's apparent equivalent in males.]
Please tell me how being “a part of the movement to end political correctness in sex education” will help anyone overcome the feeling of regret from hooking up. Sex education and people’s decision to “hook up” do not seem particularly related. People can hook up and use condoms and protect themselves from STDs in the same way they could with a partner of several years. Sex education, then, is very helpful when discussing this. The regret people feel from the act of “hooking up” is an emotional thing. Regret because you now have an STD because you weren’t properly educated about condoms and birth control is another problem.
Some women are not able to handle hook ups, thats fine. It’s personally not for me either. Instead of just condemning hooking up though, it might be more productive to acknowledge that different people need sex in different ways.